Failure is your Best Friend
November 21, 2013 § 2 Comments
Hi, writers! If you’re doing NaNoWriMo this year, we’re in the home stretch — just a little over a week to go!
I’m finishing up the first draft of my book, which currently weighs in at 200 manuscript pages and almost 55,000 words. I’m loving it so far, and can’t wait to start the rewrite. It’s going to need a lot of polish, but I think the end result will be worth it.
I haven’t always thought this.
There have been moments when I thought the book was either A) too derivative, B) too boring, C) too thin, D) too unoriginal, and E) all of the above. But I’ve kept on, because I really enjoy being with these characters and I know that if there are flaws, they will be glaring and I can easily find and (possibly less easily) fix them in Draft 2.
But there are a few first drafts of other novels that are reposing on my hard drive, un-rewritten, because I let fear of failure get the best of me. I was afraid they weren’t good enough, I wasn’t smart enough, and doggone it, people were going to like me or my books.
So that’s why I’m taking valuable writing time to share something I found this morning, thanks to my friends Jesse and Genny. It’s called Be Friends with Failure, and it’s a short comic strip (although that doesn’t feel like the right term) about why you should embrace failure, not fear it. My favorite quote from it is this:
“You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner? The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.”
In the corporate world, there’s a buzz phrase: “Fail forward.” It’s shorthand for just what Be Friends with Failure is talking about — not fearing failure, but learning from it to improve your process, your product, your company, etc. Move forward by failing. Fail forward.
So don’t despair! Keep pounding away at that first draft. Keep kicking your book forward, even if you think it’s crap. Finish it, and fix it in the rewrite. And if you can’t fix it in the rewrite, take what you learned and write a new book.
Be friends with failure.